Saturday, December 26, 2009

Singlewoman with Large small dog!



I am embracing my new single life together with a 3 year old ADHD , hyperactive and super strong hunting dog. Now, if I was asked today
"would you like a time-consuming, needy, eating-machine with great strenght and a passion to go through the trash, jealousy issues and barking towards all men you meet and a bladder that won't have a friking break?" I think I'd politely decline, thank you very much.. Most of the "benefits" of singelton life are being robbed by this ever-present hyperenergetic, dog.

I can't change things now. I'm his mum. Be aware single girls out there: Select your breed with care, if you are not married an living with acres of lush countryside, don't get a hunting dog!

It's morning walks with NO END, its oh-god-I-forgot-dogfood/poo-bags/flea-treatment (again)- It's "No", "Down", "STOP", "God damn devildog!" all the time.. Day in and out. A few dates have already commented that the "dog situation" is rather unfortunate. Can I give him up? No way!

Breakup. The 5 stages you have to come through

Stages
1.Denial — "He's just out for a beer to gather his thoughts.. he'll be back with BurgerKing soon"; "He probably lied about cheating on me to get a reaction from me" " He'll call in a minute!"
Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual. This feeling is generally replaced with heightened awareness of situations and individuals that will be left behind after the breakup
2.Anger — "How dare you not love me!" " "Who is to blame? Bring it on!" " I want to kick your ass with the highest and sharpest stilettos in the world!"
Once in the second stage, the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue. Because of anger, the person is very difficult to care for due to misplaced feelings of rage and envy.
3.Bargaining — "I'll do anything to get you back, almost.."; " If I promise to suck your cock every day... "I'll change, I promise. Ironed shirts everyday, baby!"
The third stage involves the hope that the individual can somehow postpone or delay the breakup.
4.Depression — "I'm an unlovable piece of trash?"; "I'm never going to be happy again". . . " I'm ugly and fat", " It's a joungle out there"..
During the fourth stage, the world is simply just shit.
5.Acceptance — "It's going to be okay."; " He looks kind of qute, doesn't he?"
" A date? Why not" . "I'm better-looking than his new woman, anyway"!
This is where you have given up the battle, and look forward to a new life in the single world. Happy journey to all breakupees out there!
Thank god I got through them all in one piece. Not that I won't relapse now and again, but I am happy to say I'm ready to leave behind the past and the future I cannot have and instead welcome the new life I have unlived ahead!

Thursday, December 24, 2009

Merry Christmas

Today it's christmas, and I can't muster up any enthusiasm at all.
Wathching Fear, Stress and Anger on BBC. I did put up a christmas something on the door and put out tablecloths with christmas motives.
Christmas is for people with loved ones. For family.
I've not found mine yet. But perhaps 2010 will be the year I do.
Realize that sounds rather gloomy, but from where I'm sat it seems quite good.
New year. New challenges. New life.

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

In 2010 I will ..


Take better care of myself
Blog more!
Have more empathy for others
Accept that I will never get rid of my pouch of fat on my tummy
Stop obsessing over my ex
Eat more red meat!
Stop critizising others so much
celebs not included)
Not use my employer as my bank
Not let the dog sleep in my bed
Stop thinking that one is a failure if one is not happy. It is ok to be sad now and again

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Last post about the breakup

The final nail in the coffin. Now I will not blog about this breakup any longer.
Why? Because its not healty, not fun to read, and frankly more than just a little pathetic.
And now that he is in a new relationship, LIVING with her, there is a definite end to everything. But almost a relief.
So, from now on its back to the the original idea of Lets not be perfect!
Observations on lifes trivialities and NOT a long sobstory about lost love!